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Adolescence is the time when big changes occur with a child. He is no longer small, but also not an adult. When raising a teenager, parents should adjust their skills and make them more effective.
Consider the areas in which adolescents are changing:
moral development. Teenagers strive for justice, they follow the beliefs of their parents, adopt their values;
emotional development. Adolescents undergo sexual development, so they are well aware of their feelings and reactions in this regard. Teenagers are easily excited by external stimuli;
social development. Adolescents spend most of their free time not with family, but with friends, peers, or at school. This is a completely different world where adolescents become sensitive to what other people say or do – in particular, representatives of the opposite sex; Continue reading
Elena, the mother of 10-year-old Katya, says: “Recently, her friend came to visit my daughter. We chatted a bit. After a couple of days, my daughter reported that a friend found me sweet and calm and would like my daughter to grow up the same. I was surprised, because we talked with my daughter’s girlfriend for only a few minutes. I only showed hospitality, but my daughter’s friend thought it was something unusual.
Another friend, Katie, once said: “My father does not respect women.” I was stunned and asked why she thinks so. It turned out that she witnessed a situation where her parents argued about politics, and her father told her mother: “Shut up.” “The girl was not at all interested in politics, but before that she had never seen her father being rude to her mother.”
At first glance, both of these situations may seem insignificant – after all, children still do not understand much. But the children watch adults all the time and do the same. The old rule: “Do as I say, and not as I do” no longer works. Continue reading
In families where open communication is practiced, each member feels that he is loved and respected in the family circle. Open communication also helps to deal with emerging conflicts. This kind of communication is based on listening, empathy, support and joint problem solving.
Make communication with children your priority. Open and comfortable communication develops a child’s confidence, self-esteem, willingness to cooperate, as well as a healthy and warm relationship between you. Take the time and effort to develop your relationships and communication skills while talking with children as much as possible.
Remember that communicating with children is a two-way process. Talk to the child, and then listen to what he tells you. Listening is as important as speaking. Continue reading