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In families where open communication is practiced, each member feels that he is loved and respected in the family circle. Open communication also helps to deal with emerging conflicts. This kind of communication is based on listening, empathy, support and joint problem solving.
Make communication with children your priority. Open and comfortable communication develops a child’s confidence, self-esteem, willingness to cooperate, as well as a healthy and warm relationship between you. Take the time and effort to develop your relationships and communication skills while talking with children as much as possible.
Remember that communicating with children is a two-way process. Talk to the child, and then listen to what he tells you. Listening is as important as speaking. Continue reading
When you voice safety rules to your child, you need to explain to them why this is important. You can achieve his submission by using the phrase: “Because I said so,” but this will not convince the child of the importance of the rule. Try to assure him that the rules are not needed to make his life less joyful, but to make him safe. The more fair and reasonable the rules seem to the child, the more likely that he will accept them and adhere to them.
Do not bully a child. If you do not want the child to climb trees, you should not tell him: “You will fall and turn your neck.” Say better: “You may fall, and you will be hurt.” If you exaggerate a possible danger, this can lead to one of two consequences (or both at once):
the child will cease to trust you. He will not believe you, because he understands: what you say is unlikely;
the child will believe you, but he will grow up with confidence that the world is a terrible place full of dangers.
When a child does not comply with the established rules, you must let him know that his dangerous behavior has consequences. Continue reading
Anna, the mother of two children, says: “Every day after work, I go to the store to buy groceries and necessary things. At home, I begin to spread my purchases. My four-year-old son Nikita likes to watch this lesson. Having seen among the purchases diapers intended for the youngest child, he starts shouting: “You always buy something for Sasha, but for me – nothing! It’s not fair!”
If there are two or more children in a family, parents often hear the phrase: “This is dishonest!” This can happen because you read the tales to the youngest child longer, allowed him to sleep longer in the morning, or gave him one cookie more than the older one. Children constantly consider how much sweets you give them and their brothers or sisters. They compare who you love more.
Parents find it difficult to cope with this rivalry between children, because adults begin to doubt whether they treat their children fairly (although in reality they try their best to be impartial). The desire to please both children puts great pressure on them. Parents also worry about the fact that the children do not like each other, and really want the children to get along with each other. Continue reading