Many of us have seen the cartoon “Puzzle”. It shows the baby brain control room. The publicities of the child work so that he feels safe and happy. The plot of the cartoon becomes interesting when Fear, Anger, Joy, Disgust and Sadness begin to fight for control.
For example, when Fear takes over, the child cringes. When Anger is the main thing, the child begins to swear. So we understand that all these characters reflect the emotional experience of the child.
But such a model actually works. The cartoon pretty accurately shows how our emotions work. There are also whole areas of psychotherapy that use similar models. For example, one of the ideas of systemic family psychotherapy is that within each of us there are several parts, or subpersonalities, that interact with each other and determine our behavior.
Back to the cartoon “Puzzle”. He largely explains children’s behavior. Imagine a typical situation: a three-year-old child asks you for a blue cup that he likes. When you give him a cup, he becomes hysterical. If you ask him: “Why?”, He will answer: “Because you gave me a blue cup.” Continue reading
Ask any parents if daytime sleep is good for your child. The answer will be unequivocal – yes. Daytime sleep improves mood, restores the child’s energy, improves his academic performance. Scientists from the University of Pennsylvania and the University of California (USA) conducted a study that fully confirmed such allegations of parents.
It showed that school-age children who sleep 30-60 minutes in the afternoon are happier, better able to control themselves and have fewer problems with behavior. These children also have a higher level of IQ and higher school performance.
The study involved more than 3,000 children aged 10-12 years – students in grades 4-6. As a result, the relationship between daytime sleep and a sense of happiness, self-control and perseverance was revealed. One of the initiators of the study, neuroscientist Adrian Rein, said: “It has been found that children who sleep during the day experience fewer problems with behavior and have a higher level of IQ. The latter was especially evident in sixth graders. Particularly strong is the effect of daytime sleep on the school performance of children. ” Continue reading
As you know, the perception of each person has its own individual characteristics. At the same time, it is common for everyone that we cognize the world with the help of feelings: hearing, sight, smell, touch, etc.
From a physiological point of view, each channel of perception works separately. We hear with our ears, see with our eyes, and touch with our skin. However, some people do not feel at all – this phenomenon is called anesthesia. If a person simultaneously experiences several sensations, this is called synesthesia.
Synaesthetes – people who are capable of synesthesia – have a greater, compared with others, and unique sensory experience. In the world, the number of such people is very small. However, in some cases, almost every one of us experiences something similar. We simultaneously use several channels of perception in the communication process, when our brain interprets various symbols (for example, pictures or emoticons in messages) or determines the meaning of the words that we hear from the interlocutor or choose in order to convey our thoughts to the interlocutor. Continue reading
When a child goes to school, parents try their best to help him in his studies and contribute to his academic performance. However, often they do not know how to do this. This causes them stress and anxiety.
It would seem that both parents and teachers make a lot of efforts in order to help the child learn successfully. Why, as a result, do students still experience learning difficulties, and parents feel disappointment and anxiety?
Often the problem is that parents incorrectly determine their role in this process. While teachers clearly know what pedagogical methods need to be applied in certain situations, parents often simply do not know what to do.
Many teachers will agree that it is easier for them to work with children who are ready for school. This fact seems obvious, but there are a few nuances that parents sometimes misunderstand. Continue reading
In a way, I’m an expert on despair. For twenty years I have been writing about seriously ill children. I am often asked what I do so as not to go crazy. Over the years, I have developed five rules against burnout.
I believe that these rules are useful to know for all parents, especially mothers. Because being a parent is an emotional job, and burnout happens sooner or later on any emotional job.
Emotional work, on the one hand, captures, gives creative strength, and on the other hand, burns out, especially if you behave incorrectly.
The first rule is to very accurately determine the goal. Say, when I write about a sick child, I do not set a goal to cure him – the doctor will treat the child. My goal is not to raise money – the fund will collect it. My goal is to tell a story about the child. That’s it, period.
With parenting the same thing. When I stay with children, I try to articulate my goals very clearly. Why am I here? To raise a happy person? – No. To grow successful? – No. I just make sure they don’t get killed. It helps a lot to save power. Continue reading