When I was in first grade, I rode a bicycle with friends. Suddenly the wheel of my bike hit a stone. I flew over the steering wheel and fell, hitting my chin. In fact, I was not hurt. However, when I saw that I was bleeding, I started screaming. I did not scream from pain – I was scared.
When my parents came to the rescue, I started a real panic. I saw fear on my dad’s face, which was running towards me. Then we went to the hospital.
I will never forget this trip. I sat on my mother’s lap, and dad drove the car. Mom consoled me with all her might, but I could no longer perceive them. I was overwhelmed with panic, and in the end I cried out: “I hate my bike, I hate hospitals, I hate driving a car, I hate you!” Yeah, it was a fun trip for my parents.
Now, when I work as a psychologist, I understand that a child experiencing a panic attack cannot be reassured with the help of logical beliefs. Fear completely paralyzes a person’s ability to reason, and he is in the grip of emotions. Continue reading
Many parents and even some children are happy to accept the start of a new school year. If a child can easily get up at 6 a.m., if he likes to learn lessons, he is probably looking forward to the start of a new school year. He is waiting for a meeting with classmates and lessons in which he can learn something new.
However, not all children like to go to school. For those children who do not like to learn and get up early, the beginning of the school year causes severe stress and negative emotions – anxiety, frustration and fear.
To cope with such negative emotions, you must first find out what exactly caused them. Unfortunately, people do not understand the true reasons for their feelings. If the child does not like going to school, he says: “They don’t teach me anything there,” “Teacher doesn’t love me,” etc. With the help of such phrases he protects himself from negative feelings about what can happen at school. Continue reading
It is widely believed among young parents that for the development of the child’s speech, you need to talk with him as much as possible. You can read such thoughts in books on child development or on the Internet, hear from pediatricians, etc.
If you are seriously interested in this issue, you may also have heard that children living in poor families hear much less words from their parents than children from wealthy families. This slows down their speech development.
From this we can conclude that parents from low-income families are to blame for the fact that their children are not sufficiently developing their speech skills. But there is another side to this issue: how much should one talk with the child so that his speech develops normally?
The idea that children from low-income families hear fewer words from their parents and because of this are inferior to their peers in speech development was first expressed by American psychologists Betty Hart and Todd Risley. This idea was propagated by psychologists and became an argument in favor of the fact that parents should talk with children from an early age. Continue reading
How do you react when your child is upset or frustrated? Do you feel the same way?
Imagine the situation: the child is not able to solve the homework in mathematics. You explain to him how to solve the problem for 20 minutes, but he still says: “I can’t do anything.” Are you upset in this case?
New studies by American psychologists explain how the emotional state of parents affects the emotional state of a child.
A group of scientists from the University of California (USA) conducted an experiment in which school children and their parents took part. The essence of the experiment was that children faced a difficult task. The researchers found that parents who remain calm in such situations can help the child cope with their negative emotions.
To measure the emotional state of children, the method of electrocardiography was used. This made it possible to establish that children unknowingly sense the emotional state of their parents. As a result, the emotions of the parents are transmitted to the children. Continue reading
Recent studies by psychologists have shown that playing music with children and even just listening to music contribute to the development of the children’s brain. At the same time, other studies have shown that if parents listen to music with their children, sing songs or dance, this positively affects the relationship between them.
In other words, music has many advantages for children. Let’s consider them in more detail.
The influence of music on the development of the children’s brain
Studies in which various neuroimaging techniques have been used have shown that teaching children music at an early age (up to 7 years) causes physical changes in the structure and functions of the brain.
In one of these studies, it was found that when playing music in the corpus callosum (the area in the central part of the brain responsible for coordination between the hemispheres), the amount of white matter increases. In other words, the number of neural connections between the hemispheres increases. Continue reading