Pupil Education Strategy
When a child goes to school, it may be a relief for you that he communicates more with his peers, especially if you work. On the other hand, spending too much time apart, you move away from each other. You may not notice this yet, but your influence on the child is already beginning to weaken and in his behavior he is increasingly taking an example from classmates and friends.
Your goal for the next few years is to build a strong relationship with your child that will counterbalance peer influence. When a child goes into adolescence, this foundation will be very important.
So, what should a school-raising strategy include?
1. Keep in touch with your child
At school age, the child is so attached to peers that for the whole weekend you can see him in just a few hours. Do not offer him to play computer games while doing household chores. Instead, just spend some time with the baby, doing nothing. So you lay the foundation for a good relationship with him.
2. Develop family rituals that strengthen the bond with the child
Family dinners, joint trips to the store on the weekend, preparing costumes for the New Year’s party, and much more – all this helps to strengthen communication with the child. However, you should turn these events into a specific ritual so that the child looks forward to them.
3. Consider how much independence your child needs.
Different children have different needs for independence. Remember: after periods of increased independence, when a child must behave “like an adult” (for example, start sleeping separately from his parents in his room), his childhood “I” requires increased attention. Do not insist that he always behave like an adult.
4. Help your child develop problem-solving and communication skills.
Constant bickering with children is very tiring for parents. Some people think that the secret of upbringing is to keep up with the child. But do you really want your child to follow someone’s instructions all his life and obey someone? If so, you put him at risk of peer pressure. Moreover, children who obey unquestioningly do this in adulthood. Under pressure, such people can even commit crimes. If you want the child to take responsibility for his behavior, he must learn to think independently.
None of the parents want their child to feel powerless. You want the child to know that his words and decisions are important. Should he whine and beg for what he wants? Of course not. Instead, it is worth explaining to the child that, firstly, he must argue his request, and secondly, it is just as important to you as it is to him. This should not be neglected if you want your child to achieve much in life.
To teach a child to communicate and negotiate does not mean to let him be capricious and follow his lead. This implies that you can always say no and the child will be forced to reckon with this. If the child wants you to change your mind, he must argue his request and convince you. In most cases, you can find a compromise solution together. You both benefit from this.
5. Promote healthy eating habits
The child should pay attention to how healthy his diet is. Does he eat enough fruits and vegetables? Are there enough proteins and carbohydrates in his diet? First of all, you should set a good example for him in organizing a healthy diet. Read the composition of the products on the packaging. Do not accustom your child to diets – this most often leads to subsequent overeating. If a child wants to eat during the day, give him healthy snacks such as apples, cheese or carrots. If you can instill in your child healthy eating habits from an early age, they will remain with him for many years.
6. Do not overload the child
Many parents tend to take all their free time with different activities. They send children to sports clubs, clubs, music and art schools, etc. If the child is not busy with anything, the parents feel guilty.
On a day off, allow yourself and your children nothing to plan. Let them play, draw, or do whatever they want. Such leisurely days spent in the family circle are necessary for a strong emotional connection between you and the children.
7. Limit the use of electronic devices
Teach your child to read books – and he will not be too dependent on electronic devices. But if the computer takes away a lot of time from the child, there may be a dependency, which will be very difficult to cope with. Of course, a child needs a computer for learning, but more often children use it for entertainment.