Changes occurring with adolescents
The puberty period is the time of transition from childhood to adulthood, during which the child experiences emotional upheaval and physical changes. He is not an adult yet, but he can no longer be called a child. This period can be extremely confusing for the child and, as a result, lead him to irrational actions.
As parents, you will always strive to understand how your child feels and help him. It will be easier for you to achieve this, knowing what social changes are happening to him.
Social changes during puberty
Consider the most important social changes that occur with boys and girls during the puberty.
1. Search for your own identity
the puberty can be too confusing for the child: he cannot understand the adult world and apply his previous childhood experience. Therefore, it is still difficult for him to understand who he really is – an adult or a child;
the child will try to understand how the adult world works and how he should behave in different situations;
if you treat him like a child, he will find it offensive. If you treat him as an adult and demand appropriate behavior from him, he may think that you limit him and refuse to abide by the rules;
trying to find himself, the child will take on more and more responsibility. And he will not always be able to cope with it. This is one of the most common social changes during puberty.
Treat the child as a person who combines the features of an adult and a child. Make sure that you give him the love and attention necessary for all children, but also give him more independence and responsibility.
2. Problems with self-esteem
during puberty, the child makes many new friends. He compares himself to the new people he meets in life;
new responsibilities and changes occurring with the child confuse him. This leads him to thoughts about whether he is able to make informed decisions and whether his character is strong enough;
during this period, it is important for the child to demonstrate the strength of his character in the presence of friends and peers. Confusion in thoughts and bodily changes make teenagers doubt themselves and create a negative image of their own “I”.
Make sure that you support the child in all his actions, and not only with words, but also with actions. Show the child that you believe in his strength and come to his aid if he needs it. Let your child know that you love and trust him, no matter what happens to him.
3. Risk of hazardous behavior
many changes occur with the child, and this leads to conflicts. A teenager will always resist the rules in order to assert his independence;
the need for freedom and the desire to prove to the whole world that it has grown can have a negative effect on the child;
adolescents constantly need new sensations and impressions. Your child may fall into bad company, and his new friends may not be the best role model;
adolescents during this period seek new experiences related to smoking, drinking, and sexual experience. Even if you have already spoken about these topics with your child, there is still a chance that he will be influenced by friends. You should be extremely careful that this does not happen.
Do not read the child’s notations in the presence of his friends – this will make him break the rules even more. If you don’t like your child’s company, talk about it calmly, without moralizing. If you suspect that the child is in danger or may become addicted, consult a specialist.
4. Depression and suicidal thoughts
during puberty, the child may experience various emotions, including depression of varying severity. Many children can cope with depression on their own, with the help of love and support from family and friends. However, some teens experience severe depression and need professional help;
teens can become sad and unhappy for the slightest reason. The child often does not understand what makes him unhappy, while not knowing how to get rid of this feeling;
puberty is not only physical and mental changes. This is also an important period of study, and this is the cause of additional stress in the child. In the future, this situation can lead to depression;
teenagers strive to be better than their peers in everything, including their studies. This can cause them stress and anxiety. At this age, the child first encounters many things: communicating with a large number of new people, actively interacting with the opposite sex, experiencing sexual attraction, trying to create and maintain a positive image. All this and much more can cause him stress;
it is important for parents to pay attention to the manifestations of depression in a teenager.