The child wants to quit playing sports
Sooner or later, many children involved in sports think about quitting training. Sometimes this decision is a surprise for parents, but more often than not, certain signals precede it.
What reasons can push a child to quit playing sports?
In general, all the reasons most often boil down to two main ones. The first is that the child’s interests change. Most often this happens in adolescence. Studying, romantic relationships, chatting with friends and various entertainments leave the child little time for playing sports. In such circumstances, the child simply changes his priorities.
The second reason children quit playing sports is the negative experience associated with them. It could be:
lack of playing time;
poor relationships with a coach or teammates;
excessive concentration on victories, increasing stress and reducing joy;
excessive load due to which the child may lose interest in training;
fear of failure or disappointment due to defeat and inability to achieve your goals.
How to deal with this problem? Try the following tips.
1. Be proactive. Better to prevent a problem than to solve it. When a child decides to start playing sports, you can conclude an agreement with him:
if the child wants to leave the team, he must finish the season;
if he wants to quit playing sports due to the fact that he is experiencing physical or emotional suffering, this changes the matter. In the presence of weighty arguments, he may stop training.
2. It is very important to find out the reasons why the child wants to quit playing sports. You should speak openly with him about this. To do this, choose a convenient time and place and ask him the following questions:
“You enjoyed doing sports. What has changed? ”;
“Remember, we agreed that you will finish the season?”;
“Maybe you want to tell me something?”;
“Are you disappointed with your performances or the performances of your team?”;
“Maybe you want to do some other sport?”;
“Maybe you would like to play in another team?”;
“What do you think your coach and teammates will feel when you leave her?”
3. If a child decides that other activities (such as studies or hobbies) are more important to him than sports, this should be taken into account. Nevertheless, it is worth recalling your agreement and telling the child that he still has obligations to the team. So it will be easier for the child to finish the season, even if the sport no longer brings him pleasure.
4. If necessary, you can take certain measures to eliminate difficulties. For example, you should talk with a trainer. In a conversation with a child, try to determine how difficult the situation is for him and whether it is possible to solve this problem. If the situation is not critical, you should once again encourage the child to fulfill the agreement and finish the season.
5. If the problem is really serious, let the child quit playing sports in his own interests. Tell the child that you understand the seriousness of what is happening, and this is more important than your agreement. If a child quits sports, he may eventually return to training or engage in another sport that suits him more.