How to raise a talkative child
Children make great progress in speech development from the moment when they learn to bind words into simple sentences, until they fully communicate with you at the age of 3-4 years. This period can delight parents or scare. Children begin to bombard you with endless complex questions about life. But, one way or another, you enjoy the fact that your child has learned to express his thoughts. But sometimes children do not understand where to stay, what information cannot be told to strangers, etc.
If the child is too talkative, parents need to pay attention to what he says, gradually teaching him how to communicate.
Talkative child: advantages and disadvantages
If the child speaks a lot – this is not bad. This character trait has its advantages:
the child has developed communication skills. You do not need to worry about how the child feels or what he thinks. He himself will tell you everything. In a certain sense, a talkative child is easier to raise: you do not make efforts, guessing what is happening to him. For you it will be like an open book;
you have fun with the baby. With a talkative child is never bored. He will ask you questions and tell stories for days on end. During these conversations you will be surprised how rich his imagination is;
the child will always make you good company. At home or anywhere you go with your child, he will be good company for you. You do not even need to come up with topics for conversation – the child will do it for you;
the child has an opinion on everything. One of the main advantages of a talkative child is that he learns to express his opinion from an early age. Do you want to know how you really look in a new dress? Ask the child – and you are guaranteed to get an honest answer;
the child will have a high chance of success in life. Due to its activity and sociability, the child makes friends better and more often enters into communication with others. He is also more willing to participate in various events. In the future, this may lead him to life success.
Despite all the advantages, having an overly talkative child is not easy, as he may experience your patience. Consider some of the disadvantages of this behavior of the child:
the child is rarely silent. If you like silence, you can rarely get it by spending time with a talkative child. On the contrary, every second you will hear his questions or remarks. You can enjoy silence only when the child is sleeping;
You will be asked too many questions. All children ask strange questions, but talkative children do this much more often. You will hardly have time to remember all the questions that the child asks you, not to mention answering them;
communication with a talkative child is a “one-man show”. If you want to insert a few words into a child’s monologue, you have to wait a long time for the right moment. A talkative child will not let you say a word;
A talkative child cannot listen. The child is so keen on expressing his opinion that he rarely hears and picks up what you tell him. In the future, this may become a problem, because the ability to listen to others is not a habit of a talkative child;
the child expresses his thoughts randomly. A conversation with him rarely comes to a logical conclusion. Expressing his thoughts, the child jumps to completely different topics.
How to cope with excessive talkativeness of the child
If your child is too talkative, it brings inconvenience not only to you. Probably, kindergarten teachers also express similar complaints to you. The following tips will help you cope with this feature of the child.
1. Do not label the baby
If you call a child talkative, it can greatly damage his self-esteem. Instead, accept the child’s trait and be grateful to him for sharing his feelings with you. Otherwise, it would be much worse.
2. Give your child the opportunity to speak out
Give your child the opportunity to say what he wants to say daily. Look into his eyes and start a conversation yourself. A child should know what to say is normal. Do not make him silent – in the future this can lead to various problems.
3. Set limits
Explain to the child that absolutely everything that comes to his mind cannot be voiced. Focus his attention on the fact that some things are personal, and therefore they cannot be shared with strangers, and also say that you cannot talk in certain places (for example, in the library). This will help the child understand the different situations and non-verbal signals of others. Also tell the child that if he is not sure whether it is possible to tell something, he can always consult with you.
4. Play the silence
To instill in your child the habit of listening to others, a game of silence will help you well. Explain the rules of the game to the child: the one who speaks first is the loser.