About problems with children’s behavior
Is your child stubborn and rudely responding to all your attempts to encourage him to behave well? Does he constantly bicker with you in public? Or maybe he takes without asking everything he likes?
Familiar situations? Parents all over the world face these and other problems with their children’s behavior every day. In this article, we will look at tips that will make your life easier and help you deal with your child’s bad behavior. But, before you learn how to prevent a child’s bad behavior, you should figure out what behavior is normal for him.
Which behavior is normal?
There are simply no clear criteria for normal behavior. It all depends on the age of the child, his personal qualities, emotional development and the environment in which he is brought up.
In general, a child’s behavior is considered normal if it complies with social, age, and cultural norms. But even if it does not meet cultural expectations, but correlates with the age of the child and does no harm to anyone, it can be considered quite normal.
So, how to distinguish normal behavior from bad?
Signs of child misbehavior
Naughty kids sometimes look cute. Rare disputes or tantrums cannot be considered abnormal behavior. But if this behavior is manifested too often, this may be cause for concern. Consider several signs that indicate that your child’s behavior is abnormal:
it’s difficult for a child to control his emotions. He often has outbursts of emotions, they are caused by minor situations;
the child becomes impulsive: he can fight, scatter or break things, scream, etc .;
a child who is usually talkative, closes in on himself or becomes rude for no reason;
the child often lies to you. He can steal or take without asking things that do not belong to him;
child behavior affects his school performance. For example, he can start fights at school, skip classes, etc .;
disagreements of the child with classmates or friends negatively affect his social life;
a child cannot concentrate on one thing. He becomes restless, lazy or unmotivated;
the child shows sexual behavior that does not correspond to his age;
the child questions the rules that are adopted in the family, does not observe discipline. He may break the rules and disobey you;
the child does physical harm to himself.
It should be remembered that in children under three years of age rational thinking is not yet developed, therefore their behavior is controlled by emotions. As they grow older, children’s behavior becomes more rational, but they still need parental support to control their emotions. This is normal.
Minor behavioral abnormalities can be corrected using specific parenting methods or behavioral therapy. Consider which behavioral disorders can be corrected using such methods.
The 8 most common childhood behavioral problems
Children often break the rules to check the authority of their parents. Only in this way can they understand which behavior is acceptable and which is not. This is manifested in such forms.
1. Disrespect and bickering
When your three year old daughter bickers with you, it may seem funny. But if she is already seven years old, and she says “no” to your every request or instruction, it already gets on your nerves. If this behavior is not corrected in time, bickering can lead to disputes between parents and the child.
But what should parents do in such cases?
if the child bickers, but at the same time follows your instructions, just ignore his behavior. This is a normal reaction if the child’s behavior does not threaten anyone;
if the child bickers, but follows your instructions, remember that he still does what you asked him to. At the same time, he is probably angry. You can explain to the child that being angry is normal, but you should never talk disrespectfully;
if the child’s reaction poses a threat to others or to the child himself, pay attention to what he is saying and treat him carefully;
do not be impulsive. Let the child calm down, and then explain to him that you should not behave this way. Explain which behavior is acceptable and which is not;
set limits and tell your child about the consequences of breaking the rules. Do not threaten the child, just state the facts (for example, that he will not get ice cream or go to the movies). You can say that if he continues to scream, he will not receive dinner. But, if he immediately stops screaming, you will prepare something delicious for him. A compromise gives the child the opportunity to choose and seems less categorical to him;
voice your expectations. Sometimes you can be flexible if it makes a child happy;
pay attention to how you behave with others in the presence of the child. Are you rude or disrespectful? If so, you should first change your own behavior.