A simple way to improve your baby’s health and well-being
There is one small action, using which you can strengthen the emotional connection with your loved ones. It is a hug.
Hugs are a powerful form of recognition that the other person is important to you. This is not about a friendly pat on the shoulder, but about a strong and tender hug in which you put your feelings. This is an indicator of emotional closeness between two people. Hugging another person, you kind of say to him: “I am with you.” And it is especially valuable in difficult times.
From a physiological point of view, hugs contribute to the release of oxytocin, the so-called “attachment hormone”. It promotes attachment and the strengthening of existing ties and relationships, including between the mother and the newborn. Hugs and other touches are probably an evolutionary mechanism that contributes to survival. Oxytocin is produced not only as a result of physical intimacy with another person, but also as a result of other forms of emotional connection (for example, eye contact, a smile, and manifestations of attention).
Besides such benefits for the psyche, hugs are also good for health. They relieve stress and have a sedative effect. Recent medical studies show that oxytocin reduces the level of stress hormones cortisol and norepinephrine, and also increases the level of dopamine and serotonin (hormones with the properties of natural antidepressants). Moreover, studies have shown that hugs and the release of oxytocin that accompanies them reduce heart rate and blood pressure, improve well-being, and increase immunity and tolerance to pain.
Caring touches is a kind of language that we have understood since childhood. It satisfies the emotional needs of the child – strengthens a sense of calm, trust and reliable attachment between parents and children. Parents should take the time to chat with their children, no matter how busy you are. Tell the children that you love them as often as possible. Many parents do this too rarely or do not do it at all, believing that “this is already understandable.”
This is human nature: people often try to be kinder and more attentive to strangers (sometimes to completely strangers) than to their relatives and friends. It is much more difficult for people to build relationships with their family, that is, with people who perceive an emotional connection and a good attitude towards themselves for granted. For example, such people at work can create the impression of the kindest people, but at the same time endure a complete fiasco in trying to find a common language with their children.
We must understand our tendency to take the love and care of loved ones for granted. So we are more likely to treat them with the love and appreciation that they deserve. Parenting is a link in the chain that connects the past with the future. Ask yourself: how did your parents talk to you, how did they influence your self-perception, your inner voice? And remember: your attitude to children and communication with them affects how the child relates to himself.
Every day you chat with many people. These meetings and this communication affect both them and you. You influence the people around you more than you think. And it is in your power to bring more kindness, compassion and love to your everyday words and actions.
The scale of your actions does not matter. Even the smallest act is important and valuable. All the actions in which you bring your love are of great importance, especially if they are aimed at your children. Therefore, always act as if your action is important – because it really is.