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How to increase a child’s school performance

When a child goes to school, parents try their best to help him in his studies and contribute to his academic performance. However, often they do not know how to do this. This causes them stress and anxiety.

It would seem that both parents and teachers make a lot of efforts in order to help the child learn successfully. Why, as a result, do students still experience learning difficulties, and parents feel disappointment and anxiety?

Often the problem is that parents incorrectly determine their role in this process. While teachers clearly know what pedagogical methods need to be applied in certain situations, parents often simply do not know what to do.

Many teachers will agree that it is easier for them to work with children who are ready for school. This fact seems obvious, but there are a few nuances that parents sometimes misunderstand.

If you ask parents what they mean by the phrase “the child is ready for school,” most of them will answer that the child must master all the necessary skills before going to school (that is, be able to write, read, count, have sufficient vocabulary, etc.).

Unfortunately, sometimes this is not enough.

Readiness for school is more about psychological qualities and skills, such as developed thinking, mental stability, a positive attitude towards learning, courage and self-confidence.

The truth is that if a child is confident in himself and is ready to take risks and learn from his mistakes, the teacher will be able to lead him to success faster. The likelihood that such a child will have high academic performance is initially higher.

Under such conditions, it will be easier for the teacher to manage the educational process, provide support to the child and correct his mistakes.

And, mind you, all these qualities are not associated with the intellectual abilities of the child, but with his thinking and attitude to learning.

Studying at school can be difficult and tiring for children. The situation is aggravated by the fact that every year children are forced to process more and more information. During the day, the child interacts with a large number of people – both adults and peers.

From the first days of school, high expectations are immediately raised for the child. Teachers, parents, friends – everyone expects from him a certain behavior or educational achievement. This can be tiring for a child, and he cannot always understand what is expected of him. Especially if he is in school recently.

When a child comes home after school, he needs a place to let off steam. He needs a safe space where others know and understand his behavior and character traits.

Have you ever noticed that a child returning home is displeased, annoyed, or even aggressive? Perhaps this is not as bad as you think?

Do not forget that the child tried all day to behave in accordance with the expectations of others. And, if he considers the house a safe and comfortable place, he can relax and not hide his emotions. The task of parents in such situations is to teach him how to cope with his emotional stress without harming anyone.

Our children need love and understanding. At school, a child cannot fully satisfy these needs. Therefore, when he comes from school, he does not need a mentor or someone who will remind him of lessons that have not been learned.

To understand what a child really needs, remember yourself after a hard day at work. You probably need:

a comfortable place where you can sit down;
a comfortable environment in which you can talk with someone or express your emotions;
a close person who will love you and accept you as they are.
Again, this has nothing to do with what parents usually do. Instead of letting the child relax, they constantly remind him that it’s time to learn the lessons and control him. When it comes to child’s academic performance at school, parents must first of all create a loving atmosphere for them at home and develop their curiosity.

When a child does not want to learn lessons, he usually objects: “How will this be useful to me in the future?” Parents should be patient and arouse the child’s interest in everything he teaches at school.

It is difficult for a teacher to teach a child something if he is not ready for school. This is due not so much to the lack of necessary skills as to psychological readiness. If the child is psychologically prepared, the teacher can help him develop his skills.

In turn, parents experience difficulties when the child returns from school tired and no longer wants to learn anything until the end of the day.

To prevent such frustration, parents must change their approach to learning a child. You need to look at the educational process as an exciting adventure and the opportunity to spend quality time with your child. Any failure in the child’s learning should be perceived as an incentive for further research.

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