story about the child
In a way, I’m an expert on despair. For twenty years I have been writing about seriously ill children. I am often asked what I do so as not to go crazy. Over the years, I have developed five rules against burnout.
I believe that these rules are useful to know for all parents, especially mothers. Because being a parent is an emotional job, and burnout happens sooner or later on any emotional job.
Emotional work, on the one hand, captures, gives creative strength, and on the other hand, burns out, especially if you behave incorrectly.
The first rule is to very accurately determine the goal. Say, when I write about a sick child, I do not set a goal to cure him – the doctor will treat the child. My goal is not to raise money – the fund will collect it. My goal is to tell a story about the child. That’s it, period.
With parenting the same thing. When I stay with children, I try to articulate my goals very clearly. Why am I here? To raise a happy person? – No. To grow successful? – No. I just make sure they don’t get killed. It helps a lot to save power. Continue reading